Why adults date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on ever since the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause sadness, and other harms. Also you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, money, age difference, religious background, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I should define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married date.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking an affair. I am conserned mainly though it is just the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to switch the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos the world has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is extremely pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your relatives or anybody else? You will need to minimize the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major grouping, huge actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are comfy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your funds are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extramarital affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sadly this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a male I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is not here, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have just grown apart, our ordinary concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.